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Finding The Right Cigar
Finding The Right Cigar
by: Catherine Olivia
You've decided that you want to try smoking a cigar. You're intrigued by them, and by the people that smoke them. To some, cigars are a status symbol, a symbol of wealth and class. People describe them like they would a fine wine. A cigar can have full to medium body or a smooth and creamy medium bodied taste or they talk about the exceptional construction and cool smoke. What does all this mean and how do you go about choosing a cigar?
Before we go any further, know the health risks. Cigars are bad for you. They contain nicotine which we know is addictive, which is bad for you. People can get cancer from smoking cigars. According to the National Institutes of Health "people smoking as few as one to two cigars per day have much higher risk of oral, lung, and esophageal cancer, and cancer of the larynx, as compared to non-smokers." But, you're an adult and you've made your decision. Also here we'll mention that cigar smoke is much heavier and smellier than cigarette smoke, which some find offensive.
So, back to choosing. There are man-made cigars and machine made cigars. Needless to say, most things hand made are superior to machine made, and that goes for cigars. A handmade cigar is made from leaves picked, sorted and bundled by an individual cigar maker. A premium hand rolled cigar will have leaves of the same length carefully rolled. It's the skill of the hand roller that insures a smooth and even burn.
Machine made cigars often use ends and smaller pieces of tobacco leaves, called short filler. Cigar aficionados say that this short filler draws and burns inferiorly. A well made cigar should have a full and smooth draw.
A cigar is rated on it's length and ring gauge. The length of cigars runs between 4 inches to 8 inches, with the most common cigar length being 5 to 6 inches. The ring gauge refers to the diameter of the cigar. This ring gauge is measured in 64th of an inch. The largest ring gauge of a cigar is 52, therefore it would be 52/64ths of an inch in diameter. Generally the larger the ring gauge the more fuller flavored the cigar will be.
Cigar colors are referred to as claro and oscuro. Claro being light brown and oscuro being almost black. The darker the cigar the more full bodied and sweeter it will be. The darker the tobacco the more mature it is. Some tobacco is aged up to three years before it is rolled. A lighter colored cigar will be lighter in flavor.
Is is suggested that for a beginning cigar smoker that they choose a smaller and milder gauge cigar, such as a petit corona or panatela, then move up to a bigger size, and more robust flavor as they are comfortable.
Don't be afraid to try different brands. You'll notice your tastes will mature and change. The final choice of the right cigar depends on your own taste preference.
by: Catherine Olivia
You've decided that you want to try smoking a cigar. You're intrigued by them, and by the people that smoke them. To some, cigars are a status symbol, a symbol of wealth and class. People describe them like they would a fine wine. A cigar can have full to medium body or a smooth and creamy medium bodied taste or they talk about the exceptional construction and cool smoke. What does all this mean and how do you go about choosing a cigar?
Before we go any further, know the health risks. Cigars are bad for you. They contain nicotine which we know is addictive, which is bad for you. People can get cancer from smoking cigars. According to the National Institutes of Health "people smoking as few as one to two cigars per day have much higher risk of oral, lung, and esophageal cancer, and cancer of the larynx, as compared to non-smokers." But, you're an adult and you've made your decision. Also here we'll mention that cigar smoke is much heavier and smellier than cigarette smoke, which some find offensive.
So, back to choosing. There are man-made cigars and machine made cigars. Needless to say, most things hand made are superior to machine made, and that goes for cigars. A handmade cigar is made from leaves picked, sorted and bundled by an individual cigar maker. A premium hand rolled cigar will have leaves of the same length carefully rolled. It's the skill of the hand roller that insures a smooth and even burn.
Machine made cigars often use ends and smaller pieces of tobacco leaves, called short filler. Cigar aficionados say that this short filler draws and burns inferiorly. A well made cigar should have a full and smooth draw.
A cigar is rated on it's length and ring gauge. The length of cigars runs between 4 inches to 8 inches, with the most common cigar length being 5 to 6 inches. The ring gauge refers to the diameter of the cigar. This ring gauge is measured in 64th of an inch. The largest ring gauge of a cigar is 52, therefore it would be 52/64ths of an inch in diameter. Generally the larger the ring gauge the more fuller flavored the cigar will be.
Cigar colors are referred to as claro and oscuro. Claro being light brown and oscuro being almost black. The darker the cigar the more full bodied and sweeter it will be. The darker the tobacco the more mature it is. Some tobacco is aged up to three years before it is rolled. A lighter colored cigar will be lighter in flavor.
Is is suggested that for a beginning cigar smoker that they choose a smaller and milder gauge cigar, such as a petit corona or panatela, then move up to a bigger size, and more robust flavor as they are comfortable.
Don't be afraid to try different brands. You'll notice your tastes will mature and change. The final choice of the right cigar depends on your own taste preference.
Russian Women Are Passionate Women
Russian Women Are Passionate Women
by: John Kunkle
Russian women are passionate. Once you have lived with a Russian woman, many other women pale in comparison.
Russians in general are very emotional in their private lives, contrasting with their stoic public face. A Russian woman is a very emotional creature. This is deceiving at first because they are usually reserved in their demeanor.
They are passionate in every way. They live life passionately. They are very feminine. They are also very strong willed. They are very intelligent. They have the emotional volatility of a racehorse.
You have never made love to as passionate a woman as a Russian woman. You will never doubt how much you please her sexually. She will remind you again and again. She may tear the flesh off your back.
She can get so angry she will throw things and break things. When she is incensed with you, she will call you names and hurl verbal insults at you to see how much you can take.
She is testing you to see how much you love her.
When you make up, she will beg your forgiveness and show you tenderness that you have never seen before. She will kiss you, cuddle you, and admonish herself for making you unhappy with her.
Russian women are passionate, but they are not easy. They will challenge you as a man in every way. They are not for the faint of heart. They are not for the weak of will or the frail of character.
They are the stone on which you sharpen your blade. The power and magnetism of their femininity will polarize and strengthen your masculinity. To handle such a woman, you will have to become a better man.
They will challenge you to become more of a man. You will either meet their challenge or fall away.
They will make you become a man among men, a force upon nature. A man to be reckoned with. It takes a powerful man to handle a powerful woman.
by: John Kunkle
Russian women are passionate. Once you have lived with a Russian woman, many other women pale in comparison.
Russians in general are very emotional in their private lives, contrasting with their stoic public face. A Russian woman is a very emotional creature. This is deceiving at first because they are usually reserved in their demeanor.
They are passionate in every way. They live life passionately. They are very feminine. They are also very strong willed. They are very intelligent. They have the emotional volatility of a racehorse.
You have never made love to as passionate a woman as a Russian woman. You will never doubt how much you please her sexually. She will remind you again and again. She may tear the flesh off your back.
She can get so angry she will throw things and break things. When she is incensed with you, she will call you names and hurl verbal insults at you to see how much you can take.
She is testing you to see how much you love her.
When you make up, she will beg your forgiveness and show you tenderness that you have never seen before. She will kiss you, cuddle you, and admonish herself for making you unhappy with her.
Russian women are passionate, but they are not easy. They will challenge you as a man in every way. They are not for the faint of heart. They are not for the weak of will or the frail of character.
They are the stone on which you sharpen your blade. The power and magnetism of their femininity will polarize and strengthen your masculinity. To handle such a woman, you will have to become a better man.
They will challenge you to become more of a man. You will either meet their challenge or fall away.
They will make you become a man among men, a force upon nature. A man to be reckoned with. It takes a powerful man to handle a powerful woman.
Online Dating: How To Play It Smart To Attract More Women
Online Dating: How To Play It Smart To Attract More Women
by: Grant Adams
Millions are doing it. 75% in England. 57% in the United States. We’re busy. We search for books, toys, gifts, investment data and gossip online. So why not go online in search of women?
It’s effective, time-efficient and casts a far wider net than you could ever do trawling bars, bookstores and yoga classes one at a time.
And the best part is – women on dating sites are there because they want to meet guys. They’re busy just like you. Teachers who don’t meet men over 12 years of age on a daily basis. Nurses whose only male contact are invalids. Women in fashion or retail who meet nothing but other women and gay men. And of course, a smorgasbord of single mothers who can’t run around at night but who are looking for men to have some fun in their lives, date or marry. These women are dedicated.
You can’t say that that about that hottie you’re dying to approach in the office down the hallway. Or that slinky beauty you’ve just spotted at Starbucks.
Some men are still shy or embarrassed about online dating. Get over it.
From a business point of view – it’s a hungry market – and it’s ravenous for you.
If you play it smart.
And playing it smart means standing out from the boring, repetitive, colorless profiles that men put up one after another.
You must approach dating in the online age with a combination of both ancient socio-biological wisdom about triggering attraction in women, and the media savvy of modern communications science in a “Blink!” world.
Most men throw up their facts on their profiles. But to get outstanding results, you have to approach online dating the same way you would if you were seeking success in the financial markets or your own career. It’s about deploying expertise and being professional about your efforts.
And to be a pro, you must master four important elements.:
1) How to read a woman’s profile for key signifiers -- hidden packets of information that contain the key to her heart and mind (and the rest of her body, too).
2) How to seed your profile with your own key signifiers that suggest…
* An easy, strong masculinity
* Sensual promise without sexual creepiness
* Gentle humor
* Brass balls and
* The subtle, unstated promise a more exciting life than she has now.
3) How to test your profile to daily increase your magnetizing “electric contrasts.” Your electric contrasts are there to tantalize women reading your profile, disallowing them to pigeonhole you and just move on. Most men project a limited vision of themselves and wonder why they never get responses.
Ask any woman – most men’s profiles leave them cold and uninspired.
But master these tactics, and you will have more dates than nights to meet them. The electricity you can create with a well thought out profile will be greeted not only with open arms, but with relief!
by: Grant Adams
Millions are doing it. 75% in England. 57% in the United States. We’re busy. We search for books, toys, gifts, investment data and gossip online. So why not go online in search of women?
It’s effective, time-efficient and casts a far wider net than you could ever do trawling bars, bookstores and yoga classes one at a time.
And the best part is – women on dating sites are there because they want to meet guys. They’re busy just like you. Teachers who don’t meet men over 12 years of age on a daily basis. Nurses whose only male contact are invalids. Women in fashion or retail who meet nothing but other women and gay men. And of course, a smorgasbord of single mothers who can’t run around at night but who are looking for men to have some fun in their lives, date or marry. These women are dedicated.
You can’t say that that about that hottie you’re dying to approach in the office down the hallway. Or that slinky beauty you’ve just spotted at Starbucks.
Some men are still shy or embarrassed about online dating. Get over it.
From a business point of view – it’s a hungry market – and it’s ravenous for you.
If you play it smart.
And playing it smart means standing out from the boring, repetitive, colorless profiles that men put up one after another.
You must approach dating in the online age with a combination of both ancient socio-biological wisdom about triggering attraction in women, and the media savvy of modern communications science in a “Blink!” world.
Most men throw up their facts on their profiles. But to get outstanding results, you have to approach online dating the same way you would if you were seeking success in the financial markets or your own career. It’s about deploying expertise and being professional about your efforts.
And to be a pro, you must master four important elements.:
1) How to read a woman’s profile for key signifiers -- hidden packets of information that contain the key to her heart and mind (and the rest of her body, too).
2) How to seed your profile with your own key signifiers that suggest…
* An easy, strong masculinity
* Sensual promise without sexual creepiness
* Gentle humor
* Brass balls and
* The subtle, unstated promise a more exciting life than she has now.
3) How to test your profile to daily increase your magnetizing “electric contrasts.” Your electric contrasts are there to tantalize women reading your profile, disallowing them to pigeonhole you and just move on. Most men project a limited vision of themselves and wonder why they never get responses.
Ask any woman – most men’s profiles leave them cold and uninspired.
But master these tactics, and you will have more dates than nights to meet them. The electricity you can create with a well thought out profile will be greeted not only with open arms, but with relief!
Is Male Enhancement Going Mainstream?
Is Male Enhancement Going Mainstream?
by: Bobby Walker
There is a new game in town and it's called "Male Enhancement." No longer is this subject hush hush among the male members of society. Penile enhancement has popped up everywhere, including primetime television. So how many guys are looking for male enhancement? According to Internet stats, over 500,000 searches per month and growing!
Guys will be forever obsessed with their size that no amount of therapy or reassurance will cure. If the truth be told, the majority of women really don't care about size near as much as the male ego does. Women want to be romanced and adorned by their male counterparts.
The real reason why many men seek out male enhancement is to feel better about themselves and honestly, that's all that really matters. Having self confidence goes a really long way with women and if a guy feels really great about himself because of male enhancement, then why not?
There is a wide variety of enhancement methods out and also a lot of scams. It's tough to sift through all the B.S. to get to the stuff that really works. Enhancement pills do increase blood flow and expand blood vessels, but the effects only last as long as you take the supplements.
Lately, there has been a lot of press about traction devices that stretch the male member and hold it in place. There has been private studies and reports in health magazines showing proven results. Yet the medical community is reluctant to embrace the findings.
I think it's just a matter of time until one of the big pharmaceutical companies see what type of market they are dealing with and come out with a device that's endorsed by prominent members of the medical community nationwide.
If that happens, it wouldn't be surprising to see male enhancement devices in big name chain fitness stores like GNC or Vitamin Shoppe. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with this. It just goes back to the "feeling good about yourself thing."
Women get the hair and nails done and go shopping, so what's wrong with guys wanting to feel good about themselves? One thing is for sure, male enhancement is here to stay and the market is just going to get bigger. So wouldn't it be a lot easier to embrace the change than to shun it?
by: Bobby Walker
There is a new game in town and it's called "Male Enhancement." No longer is this subject hush hush among the male members of society. Penile enhancement has popped up everywhere, including primetime television. So how many guys are looking for male enhancement? According to Internet stats, over 500,000 searches per month and growing!
Guys will be forever obsessed with their size that no amount of therapy or reassurance will cure. If the truth be told, the majority of women really don't care about size near as much as the male ego does. Women want to be romanced and adorned by their male counterparts.
The real reason why many men seek out male enhancement is to feel better about themselves and honestly, that's all that really matters. Having self confidence goes a really long way with women and if a guy feels really great about himself because of male enhancement, then why not?
There is a wide variety of enhancement methods out and also a lot of scams. It's tough to sift through all the B.S. to get to the stuff that really works. Enhancement pills do increase blood flow and expand blood vessels, but the effects only last as long as you take the supplements.
Lately, there has been a lot of press about traction devices that stretch the male member and hold it in place. There has been private studies and reports in health magazines showing proven results. Yet the medical community is reluctant to embrace the findings.
I think it's just a matter of time until one of the big pharmaceutical companies see what type of market they are dealing with and come out with a device that's endorsed by prominent members of the medical community nationwide.
If that happens, it wouldn't be surprising to see male enhancement devices in big name chain fitness stores like GNC or Vitamin Shoppe. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with this. It just goes back to the "feeling good about yourself thing."
Women get the hair and nails done and go shopping, so what's wrong with guys wanting to feel good about themselves? One thing is for sure, male enhancement is here to stay and the market is just going to get bigger. So wouldn't it be a lot easier to embrace the change than to shun it?
Things Women Want In A Man
Things Women Want In A Man
by: Rod Cortez
I met Jessica, a 24 year old law student who modeled lingerie to help defray the costs of her education, a few months ago in a nice lounge. I was there with
a couple friends of mine, enjoying a nice bottle of Pinot Noir wine. One of the things that a Date Pro has is the ability to be aware of his environment,
even if part of his focus is somewhere else. In this case I was focused on conversation with my friends. Out of the corner of my eye I noticed a man walk
up to a very attractive young lady at the bar, offering to buy her a drink. She wasn't interested so she thanked him for the offer and continued munching on
what appeared to be an appetizer.
This man wouldn't take "no" for an answer and started giving her a hard time. I could tell from her body language that she was ready to do something drastic
such as ask for security or start yelling at him. Here's a pointer for you: one of the best ways to meet a woman is to rescue her from a man or group of
men that she has zero interest in. After some practice in reading bodylanguage, you'll pick up on this. It was my cue to leave my friends for a moment and
see if I could do my good deed for the evening. So I walked toward her and the man that would not leave her alone.
"Excuse me honey," I said innocently, but deeply, firmly, and quite loud, making sure that I made eye contact with her so she knew exactly what I was trying
to do. "I'm so sorry I didn't see you when I walked in here, I ran into Ken and Ronald and ended up chatting with them. When they saw me they were like
'Hey Rod! Over here!' Since I didn't see you I hung out with them for a while. I think I need to be flogged, though I think I prefer a spanking (smirk or
eye wink)."
You'll notice that I found a way to include my name in my initial approach so she would know my name. A couple of seconds passed and those two seconds felt
like an hour as I wasn't sure if she would play along, not that it really mattered. Most women usually do because they pick up on subtle clues, cues, and
hints far better than men do. This was one of those times. "I was wondering where you were honey," she said, trying her hardest not to laugh.
"Oh," started the man who was bothering her, "If you were expecting someone why didn't you say anything?"
I didn't want his badgering to continue so I simply looked at him, then looked at her, then looked at him and said, "Hey buddy, if you don't mind, I'd like
to spend a moment alone with my fiancée."
He knew that he had lost. "Oh man, sorry. Later." And off he went.
As he was making his way out of our little circle, I leaned in and whispered in her ear, "Ok, once he's out of sight, I'm going back to my friends. By the
way, my name really IS Rod." Then I grabbed a stool, gave her a wink, and she leaned into my direction and whispered, "Thank you." Sometimes the damsel in
distress that you saved appreciates what you did and prefers that you be on your way, but sometimes they don't want you to leave. "My name is Jessica," she
continued, "Do you really have to leave? Why don't you hang out for a bit?" Aha!
"So Rod, what is it that you do?", Jessica asked with a sincerity not usually found in these kind of places. Normally I don't like telling women what I do
for a living until after a few dates, but it's only a guideline, not some rule written in stone. I like to go with my gut most of the time, since that is a
sign that a person's game has evolved. Jessica was beautiful and she had this very innocent, cute face that made me want to protect her, this was
evolutionary psychology and biology at work, not my inner wussbag coming out. One has to keep that under control at all times during an initial meeting with
a stranger.
"Let's just say that I help men figure out what they really want out of life," I said with a grin on my face. She accepted that for the time being and we
began talking about that. Eventually I asked her what she thought a healthy, attractive, mature woman wants in a man. "Leave out the stuff about 'I like to
laugh' or a 'man who knows how to treat a lady' type stuff. I'm looking for specifics."
"Well," Jessica started, "You observed one thing we don't like and that is to keep trying to pick up on us after we've made it clear we're not interested.
Sometimes I want to go out and not want to meet new people. Sometimes I just want a drink or dance or just hang out. I hate it when a man is too pushy."
"Please continue, this is fascinating," I remarked.
"I have a part-time job that pays really well, so I don't need a man to help me out financially in any way," Jessica continued on with a look of serious
passion in her face. "You know what I think most 'healthy' women want? They want a man who can take care of himself. He might even be broke today but if
he has a career or is in school or started a new business, a woman can see that he has ambition and potential. I think a lot of women look more into the
future than men do. A man should be financially stable. That doesn't mean he has to be rich, he should be good with his money and not spend it on frivolous
things."
"You mean like a Coach hand bag, Mac make up, or Jimmy Choo shoes right?" I interjected with a teasing tone to my voice. Jessica giggled.
"Something like that, silly," I could tell Jessica was a fun gal. "I know one thing I like is when my man plans out a whole evening for both us. I like it
when he plans ahead. I have a friend named Monica who was dating this really unattractive man, but she didn't care. If you can make her laugh she is all
yours. Tell your clients that if a woman is laughing at his jokes then she likes him."
"So," I chimed in, "What you're really looking for is a confident man who has a plan for his life, has potential, a sense of humor, financially stable, and
knows how to make a woman feel sexy and good, right?"
"Absolutely!" Jessica exclaimed.
by: Rod Cortez
I met Jessica, a 24 year old law student who modeled lingerie to help defray the costs of her education, a few months ago in a nice lounge. I was there with
a couple friends of mine, enjoying a nice bottle of Pinot Noir wine. One of the things that a Date Pro has is the ability to be aware of his environment,
even if part of his focus is somewhere else. In this case I was focused on conversation with my friends. Out of the corner of my eye I noticed a man walk
up to a very attractive young lady at the bar, offering to buy her a drink. She wasn't interested so she thanked him for the offer and continued munching on
what appeared to be an appetizer.
This man wouldn't take "no" for an answer and started giving her a hard time. I could tell from her body language that she was ready to do something drastic
such as ask for security or start yelling at him. Here's a pointer for you: one of the best ways to meet a woman is to rescue her from a man or group of
men that she has zero interest in. After some practice in reading bodylanguage, you'll pick up on this. It was my cue to leave my friends for a moment and
see if I could do my good deed for the evening. So I walked toward her and the man that would not leave her alone.
"Excuse me honey," I said innocently, but deeply, firmly, and quite loud, making sure that I made eye contact with her so she knew exactly what I was trying
to do. "I'm so sorry I didn't see you when I walked in here, I ran into Ken and Ronald and ended up chatting with them. When they saw me they were like
'Hey Rod! Over here!' Since I didn't see you I hung out with them for a while. I think I need to be flogged, though I think I prefer a spanking (smirk or
eye wink)."
You'll notice that I found a way to include my name in my initial approach so she would know my name. A couple of seconds passed and those two seconds felt
like an hour as I wasn't sure if she would play along, not that it really mattered. Most women usually do because they pick up on subtle clues, cues, and
hints far better than men do. This was one of those times. "I was wondering where you were honey," she said, trying her hardest not to laugh.
"Oh," started the man who was bothering her, "If you were expecting someone why didn't you say anything?"
I didn't want his badgering to continue so I simply looked at him, then looked at her, then looked at him and said, "Hey buddy, if you don't mind, I'd like
to spend a moment alone with my fiancée."
He knew that he had lost. "Oh man, sorry. Later." And off he went.
As he was making his way out of our little circle, I leaned in and whispered in her ear, "Ok, once he's out of sight, I'm going back to my friends. By the
way, my name really IS Rod." Then I grabbed a stool, gave her a wink, and she leaned into my direction and whispered, "Thank you." Sometimes the damsel in
distress that you saved appreciates what you did and prefers that you be on your way, but sometimes they don't want you to leave. "My name is Jessica," she
continued, "Do you really have to leave? Why don't you hang out for a bit?" Aha!
"So Rod, what is it that you do?", Jessica asked with a sincerity not usually found in these kind of places. Normally I don't like telling women what I do
for a living until after a few dates, but it's only a guideline, not some rule written in stone. I like to go with my gut most of the time, since that is a
sign that a person's game has evolved. Jessica was beautiful and she had this very innocent, cute face that made me want to protect her, this was
evolutionary psychology and biology at work, not my inner wussbag coming out. One has to keep that under control at all times during an initial meeting with
a stranger.
"Let's just say that I help men figure out what they really want out of life," I said with a grin on my face. She accepted that for the time being and we
began talking about that. Eventually I asked her what she thought a healthy, attractive, mature woman wants in a man. "Leave out the stuff about 'I like to
laugh' or a 'man who knows how to treat a lady' type stuff. I'm looking for specifics."
"Well," Jessica started, "You observed one thing we don't like and that is to keep trying to pick up on us after we've made it clear we're not interested.
Sometimes I want to go out and not want to meet new people. Sometimes I just want a drink or dance or just hang out. I hate it when a man is too pushy."
"Please continue, this is fascinating," I remarked.
"I have a part-time job that pays really well, so I don't need a man to help me out financially in any way," Jessica continued on with a look of serious
passion in her face. "You know what I think most 'healthy' women want? They want a man who can take care of himself. He might even be broke today but if
he has a career or is in school or started a new business, a woman can see that he has ambition and potential. I think a lot of women look more into the
future than men do. A man should be financially stable. That doesn't mean he has to be rich, he should be good with his money and not spend it on frivolous
things."
"You mean like a Coach hand bag, Mac make up, or Jimmy Choo shoes right?" I interjected with a teasing tone to my voice. Jessica giggled.
"Something like that, silly," I could tell Jessica was a fun gal. "I know one thing I like is when my man plans out a whole evening for both us. I like it
when he plans ahead. I have a friend named Monica who was dating this really unattractive man, but she didn't care. If you can make her laugh she is all
yours. Tell your clients that if a woman is laughing at his jokes then she likes him."
"So," I chimed in, "What you're really looking for is a confident man who has a plan for his life, has potential, a sense of humor, financially stable, and
knows how to make a woman feel sexy and good, right?"
"Absolutely!" Jessica exclaimed.
You Are Not Special
You Are Not Special
by: Joseph Matthews
I want to share with you a few emails I've gotten from fans of my site which I find to be quite troubling...
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Hi Joseph,
When I would learn these openers and what to say the women instantly could smell that it is NOT ME who had originally these ideas. It wouldn't be myself who created these lines. They would reject me faster as I could imagine. So how should this whole thing work ???
Honestly Joe, if I would try one of these openers they would instantly laugh and reject me because they could smell that I learned these sentences.
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This type of e-mail is not an isolated instance. I get many e-mails from guys saying things like:
"I like your tactics, but they won't work for me."
"If I tried something like this, I'd get laughed at and rejected."
"If I actually approached a woman with this material, I'd spontaneously combust, scanners-style."
Well, you get the idea...
When I e-mail these guys back asking if they've actually *bothered* to go out and try my techniques, the answers are usually always:
"No. I just KNOW it won't work."
Well, for those of you out there who think this way, I have a secret I want to share with you...
YOU ARE NOT A SPECIAL CASE!
Seriously, most guys who have the toughest time with women think that no matter what they study, it won't work for them because their case is unique and different from every other guy out there.
Well, I'm here to tell you you're wrong.
I've learned through experience that most guys are not very different from each other, just as most girls aren't very different from each other. In fact, a friend of mine summed it up best when he said:
"All women are different. But not THAT different."
The same goes for us dudes.
We all have the same fears and insecurities. We just deal with them differently. Most guys deal by shutting down and not even trying to improve.
Rather, they take the easy way out and just blame the world, other women, their circumstances, etc.
They even blame themselves, yet they prefer to beat themselves up rather than take responsibility to IMPROVE their circumstance.
There's a name for that type of guy, and it's:
L-O-S-E-R
But the thing is, they don't have to stay that way. All it requires is a little hard work and effort on their part to CHANGE THEIR LIFE FOR THE BETTER!
In my book, The Art Of Approaching, I give you SPECIFIC tactics on how to take the bull by the horns and improve your social life.
No one says it's gonna be easy. You gotta do the work. You got to get off your butt and do what it takes to get what you want! It can be difficult, but very rewarding.
If you feel you need a little help to get you started, you can find out more information here:
http://www.artofapproaching.com
It's time to change your life for the better, don't you think?
Wishing you success with women,
Joseph Matthews
by: Joseph Matthews
I want to share with you a few emails I've gotten from fans of my site which I find to be quite troubling...
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Hi Joseph,
When I would learn these openers and what to say the women instantly could smell that it is NOT ME who had originally these ideas. It wouldn't be myself who created these lines. They would reject me faster as I could imagine. So how should this whole thing work ???
Honestly Joe, if I would try one of these openers they would instantly laugh and reject me because they could smell that I learned these sentences.
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This type of e-mail is not an isolated instance. I get many e-mails from guys saying things like:
"I like your tactics, but they won't work for me."
"If I tried something like this, I'd get laughed at and rejected."
"If I actually approached a woman with this material, I'd spontaneously combust, scanners-style."
Well, you get the idea...
When I e-mail these guys back asking if they've actually *bothered* to go out and try my techniques, the answers are usually always:
"No. I just KNOW it won't work."
Well, for those of you out there who think this way, I have a secret I want to share with you...
YOU ARE NOT A SPECIAL CASE!
Seriously, most guys who have the toughest time with women think that no matter what they study, it won't work for them because their case is unique and different from every other guy out there.
Well, I'm here to tell you you're wrong.
I've learned through experience that most guys are not very different from each other, just as most girls aren't very different from each other. In fact, a friend of mine summed it up best when he said:
"All women are different. But not THAT different."
The same goes for us dudes.
We all have the same fears and insecurities. We just deal with them differently. Most guys deal by shutting down and not even trying to improve.
Rather, they take the easy way out and just blame the world, other women, their circumstances, etc.
They even blame themselves, yet they prefer to beat themselves up rather than take responsibility to IMPROVE their circumstance.
There's a name for that type of guy, and it's:
L-O-S-E-R
But the thing is, they don't have to stay that way. All it requires is a little hard work and effort on their part to CHANGE THEIR LIFE FOR THE BETTER!
In my book, The Art Of Approaching, I give you SPECIFIC tactics on how to take the bull by the horns and improve your social life.
No one says it's gonna be easy. You gotta do the work. You got to get off your butt and do what it takes to get what you want! It can be difficult, but very rewarding.
If you feel you need a little help to get you started, you can find out more information here:
http://www.artofapproaching.com
It's time to change your life for the better, don't you think?
Wishing you success with women,
Joseph Matthews
The Well Dressed Groom - Jewish Style
The Well Dressed Groom - Jewish Style
by: Mordechai Welt
What will this year's well dressed groom be wearing? The latest Giorgio Armani three piece suit? Or perhaps, a custom tailored tuxedo?
Undoubtedly, he might. But if it's a traditional Jewish marriage ceremony, chances are, when he's standing under the wedding canopy, he will be decked out in the same outer garment his ancestors have worn for centuries.
This piece of clothing is called the "kittel". It is a white linen ceremonial robe worn over his regular suit.
A brief look at the meaning and usage of this historic garment will not only help us understand it's ageless significance, but will also give us deeper insight into the mystery and beauty of the Jewish wedding ceremony.
The kittel (Yiddish for gown) is worn at four critical occasions in the Jewish lifecycle. Each event marks a period of transition and transformation in the wearer's life.
On Passover eve, we sit down at our dinner table to read the Haggadah. With passionate involvement we relive and retell the story of our exodus from Egyptian bondage.
On this night of remembrance and celebration the head of the family wears a kittel. We acknowledge our passage from darkness to light, from exile to redemption, from slavery to freedom. On this sacred occasion we become free men.
On Yom Kippur, the holiest day of the Jewish year, a day when the Creator grants us forgiveness from all our sins, we also wear a kittel.
Yom Kippur is a day when we aspire to start a clean slate. We refrain from eating and drinking, and other physical pursuits, and devote ourselves to prayer, repentence, and spiritual stocktaking. We leave behind our former selves and ascend to the level of angels. It is a time of new beginnings.
The bride and groom, on their wedding day also fast. They recite prayers from the Yom Kippur service and commit to leading a lifestyle in harmony with traditional Jewish teaching and values.
Our sages teach us, that in a certain respect, our wedding day is even holier than Yom Kippur. On Yom Kippur one may acquire atonement only for himself. On his wedding day, however, the groom may request forgiveness, not only for himself, but for those close to him as well.
On this holy day of their wedding, the bride and groom begin a new life. Spiritually as well as physically.
Finally, the kittel is worn at our burial. It thus serves as a gentle reminder, during the wedding, of life's fleeting mortality and lends a touch of solemnity to an event, where unbridled joy, may otherwise know no bounds.
It's important to note that the kittel is white, a sign of purity and happiness. In addition, it has no pockets. This is to remind the groom, that when we leave this world, we take nothing with us other than the good deeds we have accumulated throughout our lifetime.
In conclusion, I am reminded of the story of the young groom to be, who upon purchasing his kittel asked the elderly shopkeeper, if there was anything else he needed for his wedding.
"Yes", replied the wise merchant, "don't forget patience, respect, and love. And above all always remember to be a 'mentsh' ( a caring, considerate person )".
Certainly good advice for all grooms, young and old alike.
by: Mordechai Welt
What will this year's well dressed groom be wearing? The latest Giorgio Armani three piece suit? Or perhaps, a custom tailored tuxedo?
Undoubtedly, he might. But if it's a traditional Jewish marriage ceremony, chances are, when he's standing under the wedding canopy, he will be decked out in the same outer garment his ancestors have worn for centuries.
This piece of clothing is called the "kittel". It is a white linen ceremonial robe worn over his regular suit.
A brief look at the meaning and usage of this historic garment will not only help us understand it's ageless significance, but will also give us deeper insight into the mystery and beauty of the Jewish wedding ceremony.
The kittel (Yiddish for gown) is worn at four critical occasions in the Jewish lifecycle. Each event marks a period of transition and transformation in the wearer's life.
On Passover eve, we sit down at our dinner table to read the Haggadah. With passionate involvement we relive and retell the story of our exodus from Egyptian bondage.
On this night of remembrance and celebration the head of the family wears a kittel. We acknowledge our passage from darkness to light, from exile to redemption, from slavery to freedom. On this sacred occasion we become free men.
On Yom Kippur, the holiest day of the Jewish year, a day when the Creator grants us forgiveness from all our sins, we also wear a kittel.
Yom Kippur is a day when we aspire to start a clean slate. We refrain from eating and drinking, and other physical pursuits, and devote ourselves to prayer, repentence, and spiritual stocktaking. We leave behind our former selves and ascend to the level of angels. It is a time of new beginnings.
The bride and groom, on their wedding day also fast. They recite prayers from the Yom Kippur service and commit to leading a lifestyle in harmony with traditional Jewish teaching and values.
Our sages teach us, that in a certain respect, our wedding day is even holier than Yom Kippur. On Yom Kippur one may acquire atonement only for himself. On his wedding day, however, the groom may request forgiveness, not only for himself, but for those close to him as well.
On this holy day of their wedding, the bride and groom begin a new life. Spiritually as well as physically.
Finally, the kittel is worn at our burial. It thus serves as a gentle reminder, during the wedding, of life's fleeting mortality and lends a touch of solemnity to an event, where unbridled joy, may otherwise know no bounds.
It's important to note that the kittel is white, a sign of purity and happiness. In addition, it has no pockets. This is to remind the groom, that when we leave this world, we take nothing with us other than the good deeds we have accumulated throughout our lifetime.
In conclusion, I am reminded of the story of the young groom to be, who upon purchasing his kittel asked the elderly shopkeeper, if there was anything else he needed for his wedding.
"Yes", replied the wise merchant, "don't forget patience, respect, and love. And above all always remember to be a 'mentsh' ( a caring, considerate person )".
Certainly good advice for all grooms, young and old alike.
Man Dress Shoes - How to Choose
Man Dress Shoes - How to Choose
by: Anthony Kristovich III
Which man dress shoes you pick may at first seem like a simple choice. You might shop around, see something that looks nice, and then pick your favorite color. While this might work, there are many things to consider that might not even cross your mind.
The first thing to consider is what else you are wearing. I know, seems simple, but knowing if this is going to be worn with business casual dress (slacks/dress shirt) as opposed to a full suit does make a difference. With a full suit, you want the nice, traditional polish shoes to compliment the suit, as that is the look you are putting forward with wearing a suit. If you are are dressing more casual, as most places are in recent times, you might consider a comfortable pair of oxfords or rockports. After all, if you don't have to wear full dress shoes, why not just wear a comfortable shoe.
The average person steps 4,000 - 5,000 times a day. That's roughly 3 miles. This can heavily impact which style of man dress shoes you wear, as well as how the padding and insole are manufactured. Quality speaks for itself, as the saying goes. How well the shoes will hold up is a definite thing to consider.
The above are just some items to consider when you're shopping for man dress shoes, and things normal men don't think about when they're out and decide to grab a new pair of shoes. Shopping online can make it drastically easier to find precisely what you want at the price you want.
You can find more information on choosing the right mans dress shoes at http://www.earticlesonline.com/man-dress-shoes.html.
by: Anthony Kristovich III
Which man dress shoes you pick may at first seem like a simple choice. You might shop around, see something that looks nice, and then pick your favorite color. While this might work, there are many things to consider that might not even cross your mind.
The first thing to consider is what else you are wearing. I know, seems simple, but knowing if this is going to be worn with business casual dress (slacks/dress shirt) as opposed to a full suit does make a difference. With a full suit, you want the nice, traditional polish shoes to compliment the suit, as that is the look you are putting forward with wearing a suit. If you are are dressing more casual, as most places are in recent times, you might consider a comfortable pair of oxfords or rockports. After all, if you don't have to wear full dress shoes, why not just wear a comfortable shoe.
The average person steps 4,000 - 5,000 times a day. That's roughly 3 miles. This can heavily impact which style of man dress shoes you wear, as well as how the padding and insole are manufactured. Quality speaks for itself, as the saying goes. How well the shoes will hold up is a definite thing to consider.
The above are just some items to consider when you're shopping for man dress shoes, and things normal men don't think about when they're out and decide to grab a new pair of shoes. Shopping online can make it drastically easier to find precisely what you want at the price you want.
You can find more information on choosing the right mans dress shoes at http://www.earticlesonline.com/man-dress-shoes.html.
One Big Worry for Guys
One Big Worry for Guys
by: Jhong Ren
I’m not really sure about how other men feel,
but one big worry for men is whether he can bring the bread and butter home every day.
(This money problem will only go away if money grow on trees.)
There is alot of times when I look around me…some of my friends who managed to get high-paid jobs can manage to leave the problem of financial insecurity aside.
For me, I don’t think I can.
My pay is not of high range and when I work out my expenditure for every month, it leaves very little for savings.
Some of my mentors told me that a man can never really be financially free if he works for others.
I take their words for it as they are making tens of thousands per week!!!
As I was browsing through the internet, there are many internet savvy brides who built their websites and are selling some wedding hand-made items. And they are doing quite well.
There could be many reasons for doing that.
One of them is to make enough money for her own survival.
Others could be to fund her own wedding.
The rest merely do it because they love doing it.
I really wonder who are those lucky chaps who do not need to worry about saving enough for wedding.
I knew of some friends who are from very rich families and they won’t even blink an eye for spending hundred of thousands of dollars on their wedding.
On the other hand, I’m not really sure if they are really considered lucky as they do not have the chance to practice their financial planning between husband and wife.
While typing this post, I remembered many of my friends who are around my age and are getting married.
Irregardless of gender, money is always a big headache for them.
What about you? Is having enough money an issue for you?
by: Jhong Ren
I’m not really sure about how other men feel,
but one big worry for men is whether he can bring the bread and butter home every day.
(This money problem will only go away if money grow on trees.)
There is alot of times when I look around me…some of my friends who managed to get high-paid jobs can manage to leave the problem of financial insecurity aside.
For me, I don’t think I can.
My pay is not of high range and when I work out my expenditure for every month, it leaves very little for savings.
Some of my mentors told me that a man can never really be financially free if he works for others.
I take their words for it as they are making tens of thousands per week!!!
As I was browsing through the internet, there are many internet savvy brides who built their websites and are selling some wedding hand-made items. And they are doing quite well.
There could be many reasons for doing that.
One of them is to make enough money for her own survival.
Others could be to fund her own wedding.
The rest merely do it because they love doing it.
I really wonder who are those lucky chaps who do not need to worry about saving enough for wedding.
I knew of some friends who are from very rich families and they won’t even blink an eye for spending hundred of thousands of dollars on their wedding.
On the other hand, I’m not really sure if they are really considered lucky as they do not have the chance to practice their financial planning between husband and wife.
While typing this post, I remembered many of my friends who are around my age and are getting married.
Irregardless of gender, money is always a big headache for them.
What about you? Is having enough money an issue for you?
Men's Titanium Rings
Men's Titanium Rings
by: Scott Murff
Are you buying a men’s titanium ring as a gift? Are you thinking of getting titanium rings for wedding? Do you know the true meanings behind the metal as jewelry? Here is some general information for making such a decision.
Many people, including myself, heard of Titanium for the first time when either a military aircraft or a human joint substitution was mentioned. It seems like jewelers are just running out of new ideas for making new lines of jewelry. Yet, titanium jewelry is one of the fastest growing jewelry industries nowadays and there are actually plenty of justifications to the popularity.
Most people misunderstand that Titanium (the element Ti on chemistry periodic table) is a strong metal. In fact, the metal alone is not hard enough for most of the purposes it serves today; it is the alloy that produced from it that offers the superb strength and resistance to heat. Also, Titanium is not considered as precious metal like silver, gold or platinum.
So what makes Titanium so attractive? The most obvious reasons are the superior tensile strength and hardness. A particular grade of Titanium, 6.6.2, composes of a particular mixture of titanium, aluminum, vanadium and tin is used in many industrial applications such as aerospace. Therefore, the jewelry made of such (aircraft grade) Titanium like wedding band rings have no problem of being used every day, unlike gold or silver which can be scratched easily. In addition, the fact that Titanium wedding rings are much harder and more durable than gold and silver makes it a perfect candidate for symbolizing the eternity of love in a marriage.
Besides traditional uses in wedding, Titanium also possesses various properties that allow it to become popular in the fashion jewelry industry. For example, tension set diamond rings in the form of an open circle with a diamond mounted in the openings is one of the most sought after designs that not many metals can be used in. Also, Titanium reacts with different chemicals in electrolytic solutions and turns into different colors such as green and blue, a process called anodization. This makes Titanium Rings much more versatile when it comes to fashion. Finally, Titanium can also be combined with traditional metals like gold and silver in the form of inlay. Men’s titanium rings with gold or silver inlay are created by bombarding the ring in a vacuum environment with a gold or silver atom beam in an angle that the metals adhere to the ring evenly.
After all, jewelry is a way of express oneself. Men’s titanium rings are for men who would like to stay ahead of the fashion trend and value the subtle inspiration from the effect of technological advances on every aspect of our lives and culture.
by: Scott Murff
Are you buying a men’s titanium ring as a gift? Are you thinking of getting titanium rings for wedding? Do you know the true meanings behind the metal as jewelry? Here is some general information for making such a decision.
Many people, including myself, heard of Titanium for the first time when either a military aircraft or a human joint substitution was mentioned. It seems like jewelers are just running out of new ideas for making new lines of jewelry. Yet, titanium jewelry is one of the fastest growing jewelry industries nowadays and there are actually plenty of justifications to the popularity.
Most people misunderstand that Titanium (the element Ti on chemistry periodic table) is a strong metal. In fact, the metal alone is not hard enough for most of the purposes it serves today; it is the alloy that produced from it that offers the superb strength and resistance to heat. Also, Titanium is not considered as precious metal like silver, gold or platinum.
So what makes Titanium so attractive? The most obvious reasons are the superior tensile strength and hardness. A particular grade of Titanium, 6.6.2, composes of a particular mixture of titanium, aluminum, vanadium and tin is used in many industrial applications such as aerospace. Therefore, the jewelry made of such (aircraft grade) Titanium like wedding band rings have no problem of being used every day, unlike gold or silver which can be scratched easily. In addition, the fact that Titanium wedding rings are much harder and more durable than gold and silver makes it a perfect candidate for symbolizing the eternity of love in a marriage.
Besides traditional uses in wedding, Titanium also possesses various properties that allow it to become popular in the fashion jewelry industry. For example, tension set diamond rings in the form of an open circle with a diamond mounted in the openings is one of the most sought after designs that not many metals can be used in. Also, Titanium reacts with different chemicals in electrolytic solutions and turns into different colors such as green and blue, a process called anodization. This makes Titanium Rings much more versatile when it comes to fashion. Finally, Titanium can also be combined with traditional metals like gold and silver in the form of inlay. Men’s titanium rings with gold or silver inlay are created by bombarding the ring in a vacuum environment with a gold or silver atom beam in an angle that the metals adhere to the ring evenly.
After all, jewelry is a way of express oneself. Men’s titanium rings are for men who would like to stay ahead of the fashion trend and value the subtle inspiration from the effect of technological advances on every aspect of our lives and culture.
Bachelor Party Planning – The Ultimate Weekend Trip with the Guys
Bachelor Party Planning – The Ultimate Weekend Trip with the Guys
by: Mike Oulahen
Rounding up the guys to devour some barbecued red meat followed by a drunken jaunt to the local “nudie bar” just doesn’t seem to be cutting it for today’s soon-to-be grooms as they celebrate the end of bachelorhood. Could this new trend just be the competitive nature of men flourishing as they try to upstage their buddy’s previous celebration? Absolutely, guys want the best of everything and most of all, they want to impress. After all, it’s the Bachelor Party and not the wedding that will be most remembered and talked about event amongst a guy’s inner circle. The bachelor party is the ultimate ‘boys night out” and now future grooms are stretching this “night out’ into a whole weekend affair.
So, why all of a sudden are trends showing that bachelor parties no longer just entail one evening of cliché festivities but instead include a full weekend getaway filled with adventure? This could be due to the fact that men are now getting married later in their lives and thus have more disposable income to celebrate their bachelor parties in an out of town setting. According to Bride’s Magazine, the average age of a man getting married in the United States is now 29.
So where are today’s grooms going to celebrate their final days of bachelor freedom and more importantly what are they doing when they get there? These traveling bachelor parties all seem to wind up in destinations that make sense to travel to for a weekend and are places that have a reputation for being full of beautiful women. When the guys get to their chosen destinations they tend to indulge in adrenaline packed activities during the day like go-karting, bungee jumping, and racing experiences. Then when evening strikes, they enjoy taking in some eye-popping entertainment while being pampered like rock stars.
The Las Vegas bachelor party is probably one of the most popular choices for the high-end bachelor party. The cool thing about Vegas is that if you travel in a group you can enjoy the treatment of being pampered like royalty at an affordable price. Believe it or not, but hiring a limo for the night can actually be cheaper than cab fare and you even get to travel the strip from one hotspot to another, sipping champagne. During the day, there’s plenty of exciting activities if you’re not too hung over to participate. Take a leap of faith by bungee jumping off of the Circus Circus Hotel and Casino or get behind the wheel of your very own indy car as you reach speeds of 140 miles per hour at the Mario Andretti Racing experience.
Believe it or not some Canadian cities are carving out their place as traveling bachelor party hot beds as well. Montreal and Toronto are two of these Canadian gems which are gaining popularity with the bachelor party scene. What’s all the hype about? For starters, the two cities are renowned for their beautiful women and have incredible night life options. Toronto has been said to be one of the top cities to recruit Canadian models and the gentleman’s clubs in Montreal are known worldwide. The accessibility of Cuban cigars is another popular feature of these Canadian destinations. For those who know cigars, Cubans are the cream of the crop and their presence during the bachelor party can really score top points with the party contingent.
Other popular trends seen with the traveling bachelor party is taking in a major league sporting event. Even snow boarding adventures and learn-to-surf camps are gaining popularity.
The truth of the matter is that guys like quality time with the boys and as they get older and start focusing on their professional and family lives it begins to be much harder to do. This could explain why the bachelor party has evolved from a regular night out in a local strip club to a testosterone packed out-of-town weekend adventure. For all of you who are planning on tying the knot in the upcoming future, it’s time to get that thinking hat on early so you’re prepared for the big day, that is the bachelor party and not the wedding of course.
by: Mike Oulahen
Rounding up the guys to devour some barbecued red meat followed by a drunken jaunt to the local “nudie bar” just doesn’t seem to be cutting it for today’s soon-to-be grooms as they celebrate the end of bachelorhood. Could this new trend just be the competitive nature of men flourishing as they try to upstage their buddy’s previous celebration? Absolutely, guys want the best of everything and most of all, they want to impress. After all, it’s the Bachelor Party and not the wedding that will be most remembered and talked about event amongst a guy’s inner circle. The bachelor party is the ultimate ‘boys night out” and now future grooms are stretching this “night out’ into a whole weekend affair.
So, why all of a sudden are trends showing that bachelor parties no longer just entail one evening of cliché festivities but instead include a full weekend getaway filled with adventure? This could be due to the fact that men are now getting married later in their lives and thus have more disposable income to celebrate their bachelor parties in an out of town setting. According to Bride’s Magazine, the average age of a man getting married in the United States is now 29.
So where are today’s grooms going to celebrate their final days of bachelor freedom and more importantly what are they doing when they get there? These traveling bachelor parties all seem to wind up in destinations that make sense to travel to for a weekend and are places that have a reputation for being full of beautiful women. When the guys get to their chosen destinations they tend to indulge in adrenaline packed activities during the day like go-karting, bungee jumping, and racing experiences. Then when evening strikes, they enjoy taking in some eye-popping entertainment while being pampered like rock stars.
The Las Vegas bachelor party is probably one of the most popular choices for the high-end bachelor party. The cool thing about Vegas is that if you travel in a group you can enjoy the treatment of being pampered like royalty at an affordable price. Believe it or not, but hiring a limo for the night can actually be cheaper than cab fare and you even get to travel the strip from one hotspot to another, sipping champagne. During the day, there’s plenty of exciting activities if you’re not too hung over to participate. Take a leap of faith by bungee jumping off of the Circus Circus Hotel and Casino or get behind the wheel of your very own indy car as you reach speeds of 140 miles per hour at the Mario Andretti Racing experience.
Believe it or not some Canadian cities are carving out their place as traveling bachelor party hot beds as well. Montreal and Toronto are two of these Canadian gems which are gaining popularity with the bachelor party scene. What’s all the hype about? For starters, the two cities are renowned for their beautiful women and have incredible night life options. Toronto has been said to be one of the top cities to recruit Canadian models and the gentleman’s clubs in Montreal are known worldwide. The accessibility of Cuban cigars is another popular feature of these Canadian destinations. For those who know cigars, Cubans are the cream of the crop and their presence during the bachelor party can really score top points with the party contingent.
Other popular trends seen with the traveling bachelor party is taking in a major league sporting event. Even snow boarding adventures and learn-to-surf camps are gaining popularity.
The truth of the matter is that guys like quality time with the boys and as they get older and start focusing on their professional and family lives it begins to be much harder to do. This could explain why the bachelor party has evolved from a regular night out in a local strip club to a testosterone packed out-of-town weekend adventure. For all of you who are planning on tying the knot in the upcoming future, it’s time to get that thinking hat on early so you’re prepared for the big day, that is the bachelor party and not the wedding of course.
Blazers – Traditional, practical and stylish jackets for all ages.
Blazers – Traditional, practical and stylish jackets for all ages.
by: John Gibb
Blazers are a type of jacket that are commonly used for school uniforms. They are like a suit jacket but have patch pockets and metal shank buttons.
Blazers are usually tough and are found in a wide variety of colours. They are often a uniform item, for airlines, security, sports clubs and famously the traditional English school uniform. They have a history of use in sports, particularly rowing, which is one explanation of where they came from. The Cambridge University team reputedly used red jackets on their oarsmen, making them seem ‘ablaze’ on the water. Another nautical explanation is that the name comes from the captain of the ship HMS Blazer making his crew wear simple jackets in order to look smart for a visit from the Queen. He arranged short jackets with brass buttons, probably in navy blue although this is argues by historians. Some simply feel that the name comes from the practise of emblazoning a coat of arms or logo onto the breast of the jacket, especially in the case of schools or rowing clubs. The types of badges sewn to the jacket traditionally denote standing; a different colour or style for junior students, senior students, prefects, etc.
The blazer is still in use and enjoyed a brief revival recently. Primarily teenage alternative fashion embraced the blazer because of a mixture of retro, smart/casual and cheapness. Easy and cheap to find and buy, the blazer is durable and can be affixed with badges and sewn patches. The mixture of smart and casual makes them a popular choice for any age group, resulting in a more expensive brand of top quality blazers being available. A further reason for their longevity in the clothing market is fancy dress; as they are the staple of old fashioned schoolboy outfits commonly used in school themed clubs and parties.
by: John Gibb
Blazers are a type of jacket that are commonly used for school uniforms. They are like a suit jacket but have patch pockets and metal shank buttons.
Blazers are usually tough and are found in a wide variety of colours. They are often a uniform item, for airlines, security, sports clubs and famously the traditional English school uniform. They have a history of use in sports, particularly rowing, which is one explanation of where they came from. The Cambridge University team reputedly used red jackets on their oarsmen, making them seem ‘ablaze’ on the water. Another nautical explanation is that the name comes from the captain of the ship HMS Blazer making his crew wear simple jackets in order to look smart for a visit from the Queen. He arranged short jackets with brass buttons, probably in navy blue although this is argues by historians. Some simply feel that the name comes from the practise of emblazoning a coat of arms or logo onto the breast of the jacket, especially in the case of schools or rowing clubs. The types of badges sewn to the jacket traditionally denote standing; a different colour or style for junior students, senior students, prefects, etc.
The blazer is still in use and enjoyed a brief revival recently. Primarily teenage alternative fashion embraced the blazer because of a mixture of retro, smart/casual and cheapness. Easy and cheap to find and buy, the blazer is durable and can be affixed with badges and sewn patches. The mixture of smart and casual makes them a popular choice for any age group, resulting in a more expensive brand of top quality blazers being available. A further reason for their longevity in the clothing market is fancy dress; as they are the staple of old fashioned schoolboy outfits commonly used in school themed clubs and parties.
Seven Things That Women Want From Men
Seven Things That Women Want From Men
by: James Brito
It’s a question every guy asks himself, every guy struggles with at some point or another, every guy desperately wants to know the answer to:
WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?
The answer isn’t easy to come by. There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old; fat, skinny; talkative, quiet; beautiful…not so beautiful. They all want different things, different men for their different personalities. It’s enough to drive a man crazy! We want to know so badly what it is women desire that Hollywood addressed the age-old question with the movie "What Women Want" (which, I’m embarrassed to say, I enjoyed).
So, surely…there must be something ALL women want?
That’s the good news: There are certain qualities every woman can appreciate. And as men, that’s what we need to focus on most. Not on what we THINK they want, but on what we can KNOW they want. Maybe we think being 6′5", wealthy, and jacked like a football player is what every woman wants, but (thankfully) it’s not. Only certain women want that, and the groupies who only want a millionaire athlete on steroids usually aren’t even worth your time.
It’s better to focus on the girls YOU really want: the girls who make you feel good, and make you a better man. Empower yourself with a sense of choice, so that you don’t waste your time (and theirs) hitting on girls who don’t fit with your personality and purpose. The great news is, if you can provide the basic qualities that all women REALLY desire, then getting the girl of your dreams will be easy!
So let’s look at some things we can safely say women want in a man–regardless of his size, regardless of his looks, regardless of his wealth.
1. A demonstrative value. That is, women want to know that their man is someone other women would want. They want a certain "gotta have" quality about their man. This is why, when we go out with a girlfriend, women give us looks and always seem more interested. It’s annoying but true: the easiest way to get a girl, is to have one already!
Naturally, that doesn’t mean that you should be hitting on girls when you have a girlfriend. No way! But when you are single, it’s important to know how to show value. I’ve got a great lesson on this in my e-book that will show you everything you need to know: how to make her laugh, how to show a talent, and how to make sure she never leaves you.
There’s so much to learn, but in short, you want to be a guy girls love to be around, and that other girls want to have! If you don’t feel like you’re there right now, do your best to be a fun-loving guy who people enjoy being around. Be quick with a smile, and quick with a joke. Even a guy who smiles a lot can be someone girls want. Who doesn’t enjoy being around someone who’s happy, who lifts the mood of the room?
2. A man who needs her…but not too much. This can greatly value from girl to girl, but basically women DO want to feel appreciated. They just don’t want to be obsessed over. Guys, show interest in a woman, and make her feel beautiful and wanted…but don’t slave over her and make her feel like you can’t live without her. That’s just pathetic, and drives women away.
I wrote a blog on how women want to feel needed. Check it out now if you want to find out how to show your woman the right amount of love.
3. A feeling of security. Women want to feel safe with a man. They want to know that everything’s gonna be all right. This doesn’t mean you have to be huge and strong, or have millions in the bank. It just means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look after her safety, and assure her when she needs it that things are going to be OK.
It also means coming to her protection, when she needs it. If someone is being a jerk to her, stand up for her. If she’s being threatened, fight for her. Let her know that you will fight for her, and nothing will get in your way.
One of the best ways to make her feel confident that you will protect her, of course, is to be…
4. A guy who’s in shape. Okay, I said that you don’t have to be a professional rugby player to attract women, but that doesn’t mean you should let your body slide! Part of a woman’s evolutionary mechanism says that a man who is strong will protect her and the children, as well as produce strong children. Likewise, a man who is weak will produce weak children, and not be able to protect the family as well (if at all) It may occur subconsciously, but it’s there.
So show her your value by being a guy who’s well-built, healthy, and athletic. Join a gym, not just to get women but to improve your health and the way you see yourself. Join a martial arts class–who doesn’t like a guy who can kick some ass? You’ll feel better about yourself, making it easier to pick up girls, and her mating drive will only naturally attract her to you. It’s a win-win situation!
5. Someone who’s not boring. Doesn’t matter how good looking you are…if you bore a woman to tears, she’s not gonna stick around–or even give you a chance, for that matter. Be someone who smiles. Someone who’s quick with a laugh. Someone who doesn’t take life too seriously, who lets loose. That shows a lot more value than a guy who’s stiff and serious–even if he is good looking or wealthy. Believe me, there are lots of guys who have money, who have good looks–but are single, because they’re dull and not fun to be around.
6. Someone who’s good with her friends. You’ve seen it at bars: girls always look to their friends for their approval. Get their friends’ approval, and you get the girl’s approval.
Oftentimes it’s actually best to concentrate on getting to know the girl’s group of friends before you spend time talking to her. If you can make her friends laugh and enjoy your company, getting the girl you want will be a piece of cake!
I really like this piece of advice from Joseph Matthews, aka Thundercat, author of The Art of the Approach, in his free e-newsletter: "Meeting women when they are with their friends is WAY easier than waiting for when they are alone! This is because women with friends feel safe and relaxed, so their defenses aren’t up."
Furthermore, he warns that you’re not doing your chances any favors by waiting til she’s alone: "If you wait until she’s by herself to meet her, you’re walking into a situation where she’s going to be WAY more defensive than usual." So learn to be sociable, and just have fun with her friends! If you can make them enjoy your company, getting your "target’s" approval will be a piece of cake.
This is also where it’s good to go with girls in the same social network as you…you already have the approval of mutual friends. The book, Sex in America, says that 60% of married couples meet through friends, work, or mutual activities. For more information on using networking to your benefit, click here.
Finally, the trait all women REALLY want: 7. A man with a purpose. Believe me, women don’t expect every guy they meet to be worth hundreds of millions of dollars, have more power than the mayor, and be more handsome than Brad Pitt. They don’t expect you to be wildly successful. But they DO want you to be headed towards success. They DO want you to have direction. They DO want you to be living up to your potential. And those aren’t bad expectations to have! Remember, "Behind every great man is a great woman." You may not be at the top just yet, but as long as you’re heading there, with goals in life, you’re bound to attract women. And more importantly, reach your own personal success.
I highly suggest you read "The Way of the Superior Man," by David Deida. It details the importance of having a life purpose, both for you and for your girlfriend or wife. The book also explains the very important idea that if someone doesn’t fit into your purpose, or detracts you from it, then she isn’t worth your time. As I said above, don’t just go for any old girl: go for the ones who fit YOU, and who make YOU a better person. That’s what we men should really want!
I hope all of this advice helps you out as you seek to improve yourself and attract the women who matter to you. Remember that it isn’t important to know what the bimbo who wants to spend all your money wants: it’s important to know what women who want to be with you want. Empower yourself by being choosy, and you’ll be sure to attract the woman who’s right for you.
Finally, for more information on attracting the specific women you really want, check out my e-book and audio series. Thanks for reading!
********************************************************************
James Brito regularly explores topics of attraction. Since 2000, he has helped thousands of men around build confidence and get the women they deserve. To get his free six-part audio mini-course, visit:
http://www.000relationships.com/towomen/
by: James Brito
It’s a question every guy asks himself, every guy struggles with at some point or another, every guy desperately wants to know the answer to:
WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?
The answer isn’t easy to come by. There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old; fat, skinny; talkative, quiet; beautiful…not so beautiful. They all want different things, different men for their different personalities. It’s enough to drive a man crazy! We want to know so badly what it is women desire that Hollywood addressed the age-old question with the movie "What Women Want" (which, I’m embarrassed to say, I enjoyed).
So, surely…there must be something ALL women want?
That’s the good news: There are certain qualities every woman can appreciate. And as men, that’s what we need to focus on most. Not on what we THINK they want, but on what we can KNOW they want. Maybe we think being 6′5", wealthy, and jacked like a football player is what every woman wants, but (thankfully) it’s not. Only certain women want that, and the groupies who only want a millionaire athlete on steroids usually aren’t even worth your time.
It’s better to focus on the girls YOU really want: the girls who make you feel good, and make you a better man. Empower yourself with a sense of choice, so that you don’t waste your time (and theirs) hitting on girls who don’t fit with your personality and purpose. The great news is, if you can provide the basic qualities that all women REALLY desire, then getting the girl of your dreams will be easy!
So let’s look at some things we can safely say women want in a man–regardless of his size, regardless of his looks, regardless of his wealth.
1. A demonstrative value. That is, women want to know that their man is someone other women would want. They want a certain "gotta have" quality about their man. This is why, when we go out with a girlfriend, women give us looks and always seem more interested. It’s annoying but true: the easiest way to get a girl, is to have one already!
Naturally, that doesn’t mean that you should be hitting on girls when you have a girlfriend. No way! But when you are single, it’s important to know how to show value. I’ve got a great lesson on this in my e-book that will show you everything you need to know: how to make her laugh, how to show a talent, and how to make sure she never leaves you.
There’s so much to learn, but in short, you want to be a guy girls love to be around, and that other girls want to have! If you don’t feel like you’re there right now, do your best to be a fun-loving guy who people enjoy being around. Be quick with a smile, and quick with a joke. Even a guy who smiles a lot can be someone girls want. Who doesn’t enjoy being around someone who’s happy, who lifts the mood of the room?
2. A man who needs her…but not too much. This can greatly value from girl to girl, but basically women DO want to feel appreciated. They just don’t want to be obsessed over. Guys, show interest in a woman, and make her feel beautiful and wanted…but don’t slave over her and make her feel like you can’t live without her. That’s just pathetic, and drives women away.
I wrote a blog on how women want to feel needed. Check it out now if you want to find out how to show your woman the right amount of love.
3. A feeling of security. Women want to feel safe with a man. They want to know that everything’s gonna be all right. This doesn’t mean you have to be huge and strong, or have millions in the bank. It just means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look after her safety, and assure her when she needs it that things are going to be OK.
It also means coming to her protection, when she needs it. If someone is being a jerk to her, stand up for her. If she’s being threatened, fight for her. Let her know that you will fight for her, and nothing will get in your way.
One of the best ways to make her feel confident that you will protect her, of course, is to be…
4. A guy who’s in shape. Okay, I said that you don’t have to be a professional rugby player to attract women, but that doesn’t mean you should let your body slide! Part of a woman’s evolutionary mechanism says that a man who is strong will protect her and the children, as well as produce strong children. Likewise, a man who is weak will produce weak children, and not be able to protect the family as well (if at all) It may occur subconsciously, but it’s there.
So show her your value by being a guy who’s well-built, healthy, and athletic. Join a gym, not just to get women but to improve your health and the way you see yourself. Join a martial arts class–who doesn’t like a guy who can kick some ass? You’ll feel better about yourself, making it easier to pick up girls, and her mating drive will only naturally attract her to you. It’s a win-win situation!
5. Someone who’s not boring. Doesn’t matter how good looking you are…if you bore a woman to tears, she’s not gonna stick around–or even give you a chance, for that matter. Be someone who smiles. Someone who’s quick with a laugh. Someone who doesn’t take life too seriously, who lets loose. That shows a lot more value than a guy who’s stiff and serious–even if he is good looking or wealthy. Believe me, there are lots of guys who have money, who have good looks–but are single, because they’re dull and not fun to be around.
6. Someone who’s good with her friends. You’ve seen it at bars: girls always look to their friends for their approval. Get their friends’ approval, and you get the girl’s approval.
Oftentimes it’s actually best to concentrate on getting to know the girl’s group of friends before you spend time talking to her. If you can make her friends laugh and enjoy your company, getting the girl you want will be a piece of cake!
I really like this piece of advice from Joseph Matthews, aka Thundercat, author of The Art of the Approach, in his free e-newsletter: "Meeting women when they are with their friends is WAY easier than waiting for when they are alone! This is because women with friends feel safe and relaxed, so their defenses aren’t up."
Furthermore, he warns that you’re not doing your chances any favors by waiting til she’s alone: "If you wait until she’s by herself to meet her, you’re walking into a situation where she’s going to be WAY more defensive than usual." So learn to be sociable, and just have fun with her friends! If you can make them enjoy your company, getting your "target’s" approval will be a piece of cake.
This is also where it’s good to go with girls in the same social network as you…you already have the approval of mutual friends. The book, Sex in America, says that 60% of married couples meet through friends, work, or mutual activities. For more information on using networking to your benefit, click here.
Finally, the trait all women REALLY want: 7. A man with a purpose. Believe me, women don’t expect every guy they meet to be worth hundreds of millions of dollars, have more power than the mayor, and be more handsome than Brad Pitt. They don’t expect you to be wildly successful. But they DO want you to be headed towards success. They DO want you to have direction. They DO want you to be living up to your potential. And those aren’t bad expectations to have! Remember, "Behind every great man is a great woman." You may not be at the top just yet, but as long as you’re heading there, with goals in life, you’re bound to attract women. And more importantly, reach your own personal success.
I highly suggest you read "The Way of the Superior Man," by David Deida. It details the importance of having a life purpose, both for you and for your girlfriend or wife. The book also explains the very important idea that if someone doesn’t fit into your purpose, or detracts you from it, then she isn’t worth your time. As I said above, don’t just go for any old girl: go for the ones who fit YOU, and who make YOU a better person. That’s what we men should really want!
I hope all of this advice helps you out as you seek to improve yourself and attract the women who matter to you. Remember that it isn’t important to know what the bimbo who wants to spend all your money wants: it’s important to know what women who want to be with you want. Empower yourself by being choosy, and you’ll be sure to attract the woman who’s right for you.
Finally, for more information on attracting the specific women you really want, check out my e-book and audio series. Thanks for reading!
********************************************************************
James Brito regularly explores topics of attraction. Since 2000, he has helped thousands of men around build confidence and get the women they deserve. To get his free six-part audio mini-course, visit:
http://www.000relationships.com/towomen/
Confusion of American Men When It Comes To Women: A Brief Overview
Confusion of American Men When It Comes To Women: A Brief Overview
by: Rion Williams
I will briefly look at how a woman is supposed to behave as determined by society, and how men keep treating her only keeps her questioning 'where have all the Cowboys gone'?
Despite the many things I may have said (or you may have had questions about or a feeling of confusion) or thought about American women in the past decade, they really are no different when you cut through all of the surface visage when it comes to the attraction process. If you are going to be in a long-term relationship with one of these women know, you will have to put up with a tremendous amount of drama and struggle between the two powers of both of your realities.
So it is up to you to determine what kind of lifestyle you want to live. If you are really looking to have a pleasant marriage where a wife will support you and take care of all of the household things, I'm sorry but it is really going to be hard to find that in a strong independent (American) woman. Let the debate commence!
Just realize what you are getting into because half of the male population can tell you what divorces like. Is it necessarily the woman's fault for not wanting to go back to a more traditional foundation when she has her newfound independence and freedom in today's society?
Well, it was just the way she was brought up. Just understand that you are going to get yourself into a certain position if you choose to have a long-term relationship with a beautiful and independent woman. That relationship will essentially be a power struggle whether you want to admit it or not.
On the other hand if you are looking to have physical relationships with many beautiful women (and part of that desire is consciously stemming from the way our society perpetuates a woman's physical and sexual beauty), you are going to have to approach 'dating' from a whole different angle.
What our society is doing is basically giving man a permanent 'blue balls syndrome' by almost exploiting a woman's sexuality. This is the main sense in which she has been given power in the early part of our century and now her power embodies all areas of her life with the other freedoms she enjoys being basically equal to a man.
But all of this sexual exploitation in our popular society and media is only connecting more and more with the unresolved inner desires of the male ID.
This is creating more and more desperation and confusion among men in our society. We have essentially forgot how to act around women and be the naturals that we were born to be. What I call the 'forced reality' is this invisible paradigm which confuses and clouds a man's perspective on how to relate to women.
Who says that you have to put up with a woman's drama? It is your choice whether you want to put up with her drama and her demands. If you do not care and are on your life purpose and path then you can take or her leave her because you know she will bring you more drama and trouble than you want or need in your life. Put me on Oprah, I don't care, I'll stand up for our men.
Ironically this is one of the major things that attracts this type of woman to you. If you find yourself being drawn into a 50-50 type relationship with a woman and find yourself giving in to some of her demands (as little as they may seem), it is almost too late.
And I know that all of us have been through this many times before with the American woman. And once again I am making a distinction by saying 'American' woman. Now that applies to independent women in all major cities in the world which has its roots in American media and propagation of the feminine power and opportunity. Keep an eye out for other controversial yet truth-revealing articles from both a male perspective and the universal perspective.
by: Rion Williams
I will briefly look at how a woman is supposed to behave as determined by society, and how men keep treating her only keeps her questioning 'where have all the Cowboys gone'?
Despite the many things I may have said (or you may have had questions about or a feeling of confusion) or thought about American women in the past decade, they really are no different when you cut through all of the surface visage when it comes to the attraction process. If you are going to be in a long-term relationship with one of these women know, you will have to put up with a tremendous amount of drama and struggle between the two powers of both of your realities.
So it is up to you to determine what kind of lifestyle you want to live. If you are really looking to have a pleasant marriage where a wife will support you and take care of all of the household things, I'm sorry but it is really going to be hard to find that in a strong independent (American) woman. Let the debate commence!
Just realize what you are getting into because half of the male population can tell you what divorces like. Is it necessarily the woman's fault for not wanting to go back to a more traditional foundation when she has her newfound independence and freedom in today's society?
Well, it was just the way she was brought up. Just understand that you are going to get yourself into a certain position if you choose to have a long-term relationship with a beautiful and independent woman. That relationship will essentially be a power struggle whether you want to admit it or not.
On the other hand if you are looking to have physical relationships with many beautiful women (and part of that desire is consciously stemming from the way our society perpetuates a woman's physical and sexual beauty), you are going to have to approach 'dating' from a whole different angle.
What our society is doing is basically giving man a permanent 'blue balls syndrome' by almost exploiting a woman's sexuality. This is the main sense in which she has been given power in the early part of our century and now her power embodies all areas of her life with the other freedoms she enjoys being basically equal to a man.
But all of this sexual exploitation in our popular society and media is only connecting more and more with the unresolved inner desires of the male ID.
This is creating more and more desperation and confusion among men in our society. We have essentially forgot how to act around women and be the naturals that we were born to be. What I call the 'forced reality' is this invisible paradigm which confuses and clouds a man's perspective on how to relate to women.
Who says that you have to put up with a woman's drama? It is your choice whether you want to put up with her drama and her demands. If you do not care and are on your life purpose and path then you can take or her leave her because you know she will bring you more drama and trouble than you want or need in your life. Put me on Oprah, I don't care, I'll stand up for our men.
Ironically this is one of the major things that attracts this type of woman to you. If you find yourself being drawn into a 50-50 type relationship with a woman and find yourself giving in to some of her demands (as little as they may seem), it is almost too late.
And I know that all of us have been through this many times before with the American woman. And once again I am making a distinction by saying 'American' woman. Now that applies to independent women in all major cities in the world which has its roots in American media and propagation of the feminine power and opportunity. Keep an eye out for other controversial yet truth-revealing articles from both a male perspective and the universal perspective.
Physical and Emotional Availability: Fathers Are of Utmost Importance to Babies
Physical and Emotional Availability: Fathers Are of Utmost Importance to Babies
by: Joy Cagil
It must be very emotional for a man to become a father, especially for the first time. So many questions must revolve around a young or not so young man's head. "How will I manage my life? Will I be a good father? Will we be able to provide for our child through his growing years? Will my partner's treatment of me change once the baby comes? Will the baby like me?"
Every day on earth, millions of men become fathers. Possibly, only a few of them ever think of baby rearing as a job, and most babies grow into adulthood looking healthy enough. The emotionally healthy children, however, do possess fathers who take their child-rearing job seriously.
A father's touch--the way he holds his baby, the way he plays with him, cares for him, nurtures him--matters greatly for an infant's optimum development. In reverse, the interaction with his baby aids a father's personal growth by teaching him how to be protective and nurturing.
A father's attention improves his baby's understanding, emotional development, and even intelligence. The baby sees the differences between Mommy, Daddy, and other people through his interaction with his father.
His father's support helps the baby develop self-confidence and guides him to explore the world around him more enthusiastically. Fathers usually encourage perseverance in their children, more so than other people around them. Fathers also are the ones to persuade their children to take risks and overcome their initial fears of new projects.
By becoming role models to their children, fathers promote the concepts of honesty, fairness, gentleness, and empathy.
Parenthood is a scary mission. When a man gets the first news of becoming a father he may feel a plethora of emotions: happiness, shock, worry, pride, panic, fear, excitement, anxiety and a whole lot of other things. These feelings are understandable and acceptable because they are normal. Addressing these feelings by talking about them with one's mate, a friend, or one's family is a very constructive approach.
Also, if the father-to-be has had his differences with his own father in the past, it would help his situation greatly to discuss these problems with a professional, if not for himself, then for the sake of his baby. Promising to oneself not to repeat other people's mistakes and to be the best father ever may not always work perfectly.
Being a good father starts when the baby is still in the womb. It is hypothesized that the babies do understand plenty of things before birth. Talking to the baby while touching the mother's belly will make the baby get acquainted with his father's voice, his intonation, and his moods.
At this stage, a baby care course would be a great idea for the expectant couple. Fathers who attend such courses take care of the babies better, and as a result, become closer to their children.
Supposing the future father passed through the pregnancy and childbirth together with his wife in flying colors, what can the couple, as parents, do once the baby gets home?
* The father has to understand and put up with his partner's moods. Childbirth is a physical process and a woman's body goes through many changes as the result of it. Most women suffer from baby blues because of hormonal changes. In such a case, positive relationship with the father of her baby helps a woman immensely.
* The father has to understand and accept that not only his wife but he, too, will experience physical and psychological discomfort and sleep deprivation.
* The father has to, not aid but, participate and become an equal partner in the care and nurturing of the baby. When he does that, he will start creating an emotional connection between himself and his offspring.
* Changing, bathing, dressing, feeding, holding, and playing with the baby are means to a good communication between a father and a child. While talking to an infant, using signs, or even using sign language, may help the bonding and the baby's mental development.
* If the father and the mother are working and have found an alternative solution to their baby's care, neither should feel guilty, but instead, they should turn the time they spend with the baby into quality time. If a situation can not be helped, it can be remedied.
* The parents have to stop expecting the continuation of their social life before the baby was born. On the other hand, they both should make an effort to take care of themselves, eat right, and get some rest and exercise.
* If the father has to be away for long periods of time because of work, laminating large photos of his face and hanging or placing or them around the baby's crib can be considered an alternative. Also playing video and audio tapes of the father may help the baby to become familiar with the father.
The idea of "Practice makes perfect" works very well with fathers. The more a father pays attention to his baby, the more capable the father will become, and his baby will develop faster and better in his mental, physical, emotional, and social growth.
by: Joy Cagil
It must be very emotional for a man to become a father, especially for the first time. So many questions must revolve around a young or not so young man's head. "How will I manage my life? Will I be a good father? Will we be able to provide for our child through his growing years? Will my partner's treatment of me change once the baby comes? Will the baby like me?"
Every day on earth, millions of men become fathers. Possibly, only a few of them ever think of baby rearing as a job, and most babies grow into adulthood looking healthy enough. The emotionally healthy children, however, do possess fathers who take their child-rearing job seriously.
A father's touch--the way he holds his baby, the way he plays with him, cares for him, nurtures him--matters greatly for an infant's optimum development. In reverse, the interaction with his baby aids a father's personal growth by teaching him how to be protective and nurturing.
A father's attention improves his baby's understanding, emotional development, and even intelligence. The baby sees the differences between Mommy, Daddy, and other people through his interaction with his father.
His father's support helps the baby develop self-confidence and guides him to explore the world around him more enthusiastically. Fathers usually encourage perseverance in their children, more so than other people around them. Fathers also are the ones to persuade their children to take risks and overcome their initial fears of new projects.
By becoming role models to their children, fathers promote the concepts of honesty, fairness, gentleness, and empathy.
Parenthood is a scary mission. When a man gets the first news of becoming a father he may feel a plethora of emotions: happiness, shock, worry, pride, panic, fear, excitement, anxiety and a whole lot of other things. These feelings are understandable and acceptable because they are normal. Addressing these feelings by talking about them with one's mate, a friend, or one's family is a very constructive approach.
Also, if the father-to-be has had his differences with his own father in the past, it would help his situation greatly to discuss these problems with a professional, if not for himself, then for the sake of his baby. Promising to oneself not to repeat other people's mistakes and to be the best father ever may not always work perfectly.
Being a good father starts when the baby is still in the womb. It is hypothesized that the babies do understand plenty of things before birth. Talking to the baby while touching the mother's belly will make the baby get acquainted with his father's voice, his intonation, and his moods.
At this stage, a baby care course would be a great idea for the expectant couple. Fathers who attend such courses take care of the babies better, and as a result, become closer to their children.
Supposing the future father passed through the pregnancy and childbirth together with his wife in flying colors, what can the couple, as parents, do once the baby gets home?
* The father has to understand and put up with his partner's moods. Childbirth is a physical process and a woman's body goes through many changes as the result of it. Most women suffer from baby blues because of hormonal changes. In such a case, positive relationship with the father of her baby helps a woman immensely.
* The father has to understand and accept that not only his wife but he, too, will experience physical and psychological discomfort and sleep deprivation.
* The father has to, not aid but, participate and become an equal partner in the care and nurturing of the baby. When he does that, he will start creating an emotional connection between himself and his offspring.
* Changing, bathing, dressing, feeding, holding, and playing with the baby are means to a good communication between a father and a child. While talking to an infant, using signs, or even using sign language, may help the bonding and the baby's mental development.
* If the father and the mother are working and have found an alternative solution to their baby's care, neither should feel guilty, but instead, they should turn the time they spend with the baby into quality time. If a situation can not be helped, it can be remedied.
* The parents have to stop expecting the continuation of their social life before the baby was born. On the other hand, they both should make an effort to take care of themselves, eat right, and get some rest and exercise.
* If the father has to be away for long periods of time because of work, laminating large photos of his face and hanging or placing or them around the baby's crib can be considered an alternative. Also playing video and audio tapes of the father may help the baby to become familiar with the father.
The idea of "Practice makes perfect" works very well with fathers. The more a father pays attention to his baby, the more capable the father will become, and his baby will develop faster and better in his mental, physical, emotional, and social growth.
How to Approach a Woman and Score
How to Approach a Woman and Score
by: Amit Laufer
A lot of men preceive the task of starting a conversation with a woman especially if she is highly attractive stranger a hard and discomforting one. Besides that, they typically take the wrong attitude of being too nice and over openhanded with flowers, paying for dinners and expressing their lack of confidence and low self esteem.
The women on their part are not attracted to unconfident, dishonest, wussy men. They will either decline him on the spot or possibly worse take advantage of the situation by exploiting him to furnish her meal after meal, present after present and usually see other man for real love, romance and sex. In this situation the woman has two men a provider and a lover.
The nice boy, fawning, wussy approach may be observed Whenever a man is requsting a woman to dance or offer to buy her a drink without ever to build the attraction or chemistry.
Is Cocky rather then Wussy is the answer?
The nice boy attitude is not the perfect way as we realized above and being really mean and vulgar won't function either, the correct way that has proven 90% of the times to work magnificently with women is the confident, bold, cocky and funny attitude.
In this approach you build the relationships on a give and take, a flattering remark and a bust (with a smile), you indicate the woman you'r self assured enough to criticize her, you express yourself naturally neer women, you aren't scared of her, you are not caring if she likes you or not, you are genuine and express your opinions openly, you are playing the confident hard funny guy. Now you bring her self confidence to the test, you challenge her, you intrigue her, you build the attraction. Let her chase you! You need to be her prize, a reward for her hard earned efforts for behaving like she should have with you.
For example you start and Say something such as: I like your jacket it's really nice (a flattering remark), then comment: but it doesn't fit so well with your shoos does it ? (a bust), you do it on purpose, you ought to practice on it.
You should tease her like hand it to her and then take it away in the last minute, be spontaneous, unexpected, a teaser and fascinating.
How do you know if she is interested?
Its simpler than you believe and it goes like that: You engage with her: What a beautiful pair of boots you'r wearing , I really like them, She is looking who is it and then say: Thanks. You: arent you melting in them at such a hot weather? (smiling) or are you trying to hide your feet from me? She: (smiling) hell, no, I love them thats all, Ill bet my feet are nicer in comparison with yours, Mr. long nose. (she responded so she is engaged too *-). You: wow, I understand you develop a very good opinion about yourself attractive lady, why wont we arrange a feet contest...
The important thing is to keep it running with light humoristic and fun approach. Without even realizing it you are mutually engaged in developing a relationship and building your mutual attraction.
Whenever you start dating with a woman keep in mind you are not on an employment interview, don't make it sound like questions and answers, don't make it boring, don't try to show off, talk with her just about general things she likes and sympathize with, such as famous Television shows etc, it may look to you at first to a certain extent superficial but this is the way to go. Try to avoid, at least at the begining, talking on your problems at work, your relations with your parents etc'.
by: Amit Laufer
A lot of men preceive the task of starting a conversation with a woman especially if she is highly attractive stranger a hard and discomforting one. Besides that, they typically take the wrong attitude of being too nice and over openhanded with flowers, paying for dinners and expressing their lack of confidence and low self esteem.
The women on their part are not attracted to unconfident, dishonest, wussy men. They will either decline him on the spot or possibly worse take advantage of the situation by exploiting him to furnish her meal after meal, present after present and usually see other man for real love, romance and sex. In this situation the woman has two men a provider and a lover.
The nice boy, fawning, wussy approach may be observed Whenever a man is requsting a woman to dance or offer to buy her a drink without ever to build the attraction or chemistry.
Is Cocky rather then Wussy is the answer?
The nice boy attitude is not the perfect way as we realized above and being really mean and vulgar won't function either, the correct way that has proven 90% of the times to work magnificently with women is the confident, bold, cocky and funny attitude.
In this approach you build the relationships on a give and take, a flattering remark and a bust (with a smile), you indicate the woman you'r self assured enough to criticize her, you express yourself naturally neer women, you aren't scared of her, you are not caring if she likes you or not, you are genuine and express your opinions openly, you are playing the confident hard funny guy. Now you bring her self confidence to the test, you challenge her, you intrigue her, you build the attraction. Let her chase you! You need to be her prize, a reward for her hard earned efforts for behaving like she should have with you.
For example you start and Say something such as: I like your jacket it's really nice (a flattering remark), then comment: but it doesn't fit so well with your shoos does it ? (a bust), you do it on purpose, you ought to practice on it.
You should tease her like hand it to her and then take it away in the last minute, be spontaneous, unexpected, a teaser and fascinating.
How do you know if she is interested?
Its simpler than you believe and it goes like that: You engage with her: What a beautiful pair of boots you'r wearing , I really like them, She is looking who is it and then say: Thanks. You: arent you melting in them at such a hot weather? (smiling) or are you trying to hide your feet from me? She: (smiling) hell, no, I love them thats all, Ill bet my feet are nicer in comparison with yours, Mr. long nose. (she responded so she is engaged too *-). You: wow, I understand you develop a very good opinion about yourself attractive lady, why wont we arrange a feet contest...
The important thing is to keep it running with light humoristic and fun approach. Without even realizing it you are mutually engaged in developing a relationship and building your mutual attraction.
Whenever you start dating with a woman keep in mind you are not on an employment interview, don't make it sound like questions and answers, don't make it boring, don't try to show off, talk with her just about general things she likes and sympathize with, such as famous Television shows etc, it may look to you at first to a certain extent superficial but this is the way to go. Try to avoid, at least at the begining, talking on your problems at work, your relations with your parents etc'.
How To French Kiss A Woman
How To French Kiss A Woman
by: Joshua Wong
It is an experience that most people would remember: their first French kiss. Some people would say it was a great experience while some would prefer not to mention it. But, we all know that French kissing is a very delicate and sensual experience.
Research has said that women's lips are one of their erogenous zone, so it's important for men to leave a lasting impression with women. And if you French kiss her like no one else, you'll most likely to kiss something else of her next.
The skill of kissing does not simply consist of knowing how to move your tongue inside a woman's mouth without hitting her tonsils. It involves the entire mouth - the lips, tongue, teeth, and the rest of the body.
Here are some basics:
1) Give the lady a hand.
Position your hands on her body while kissing her. Hold her face firmly but gently as you slip your tongue inside her mouth and suck on her lips. This will definitely make her toes curl.
Also, try to gently pull her hair back from the back or slightly squeezing the part of her body that is located right under her breasts (her ribs). This could make for some very enticing kissing sessions.
2) Pay attention to the way she kiss.
People often give out what they would like to receive, so pay attention to the way she kisses you. That could be an indication of the way she wants you to kiss her. Does she bite on your lips or try to gently suck all the saliva off your tongue? Reciprocate by doing the same. She will love you for it.
3) Tell her what you like.
Does your loved one kiss you like she's trying to suck the life out of your body? Does she kiss too fast, too slow, or without using her tongue? Try not to tell her what you don't like, but rather what you do like. That way you won't hurt her feelings.
4) Control her mouth.
The next time you kiss her, hold her face with your hands tenderly and kiss her the way you would like to be kissed. If she is not turn on by this, then your sensual tongue will surely do the trick.
5) Make it long-lasting.
Women loved long, slow, juicy, and enticing kisses. Your partner will definitely feel your passion through one of those prolonged tender kissing moments. Just like in the movies, kiss her hard and deep.
Now that you've discovered the basics of kissing, let's move on to some ways to make her think and want to kiss you all the time, hopefully. Here are some simple tips that can make you the ultimate Casanova:
1) Suck on her tongue.
Turn your mouth into a soft suctioning device on her tongue. Suck on her tongue mimicking the way you would suck on a woman's clitoris.
2) Lick her lips with your tongue.
Lick on her upper and lower lips in a slow, ticklish fashion. Once you have lubricated them adequately with your saliva, move your lips around her lips and let your saliva wet both of your mouths.
3) Suck on her lips.
If licking her lips quickly makes her wanting more, then begin sucking on her lips. Do it one at a time as no one wants to feel as though they've stuck their mouth inside a vacuum. Be careful when you suck on her lips; don't get too rough or she will get turn off and pushes you off. You would not want that to happen, do you?
4) Move beyond her mouth.
Don't be shy. You would not want to confine yourself to kissing just her lips. There's a whole face and body to explore. Go ahead and French kiss her chin, her neck and her breasts? Kiss her eyes, behind her ears or her wrists. Be bold and try something different. You'd be surprised at the results that a little creativity can produced.
If you've never been complimented on your kissing techniques before, now you'll know the basics of being a professional kisser. A quick way to tell if she enjoyed the experience: when you kiss her and then pull back, her eyes stay closed for just a moment longer. This usually means that she thoroughly enjoyed your kiss and there's a good chance that you could take it a step further. Just remember that everything starts with a kiss.
by: Joshua Wong
It is an experience that most people would remember: their first French kiss. Some people would say it was a great experience while some would prefer not to mention it. But, we all know that French kissing is a very delicate and sensual experience.
Research has said that women's lips are one of their erogenous zone, so it's important for men to leave a lasting impression with women. And if you French kiss her like no one else, you'll most likely to kiss something else of her next.
The skill of kissing does not simply consist of knowing how to move your tongue inside a woman's mouth without hitting her tonsils. It involves the entire mouth - the lips, tongue, teeth, and the rest of the body.
Here are some basics:
1) Give the lady a hand.
Position your hands on her body while kissing her. Hold her face firmly but gently as you slip your tongue inside her mouth and suck on her lips. This will definitely make her toes curl.
Also, try to gently pull her hair back from the back or slightly squeezing the part of her body that is located right under her breasts (her ribs). This could make for some very enticing kissing sessions.
2) Pay attention to the way she kiss.
People often give out what they would like to receive, so pay attention to the way she kisses you. That could be an indication of the way she wants you to kiss her. Does she bite on your lips or try to gently suck all the saliva off your tongue? Reciprocate by doing the same. She will love you for it.
3) Tell her what you like.
Does your loved one kiss you like she's trying to suck the life out of your body? Does she kiss too fast, too slow, or without using her tongue? Try not to tell her what you don't like, but rather what you do like. That way you won't hurt her feelings.
4) Control her mouth.
The next time you kiss her, hold her face with your hands tenderly and kiss her the way you would like to be kissed. If she is not turn on by this, then your sensual tongue will surely do the trick.
5) Make it long-lasting.
Women loved long, slow, juicy, and enticing kisses. Your partner will definitely feel your passion through one of those prolonged tender kissing moments. Just like in the movies, kiss her hard and deep.
Now that you've discovered the basics of kissing, let's move on to some ways to make her think and want to kiss you all the time, hopefully. Here are some simple tips that can make you the ultimate Casanova:
1) Suck on her tongue.
Turn your mouth into a soft suctioning device on her tongue. Suck on her tongue mimicking the way you would suck on a woman's clitoris.
2) Lick her lips with your tongue.
Lick on her upper and lower lips in a slow, ticklish fashion. Once you have lubricated them adequately with your saliva, move your lips around her lips and let your saliva wet both of your mouths.
3) Suck on her lips.
If licking her lips quickly makes her wanting more, then begin sucking on her lips. Do it one at a time as no one wants to feel as though they've stuck their mouth inside a vacuum. Be careful when you suck on her lips; don't get too rough or she will get turn off and pushes you off. You would not want that to happen, do you?
4) Move beyond her mouth.
Don't be shy. You would not want to confine yourself to kissing just her lips. There's a whole face and body to explore. Go ahead and French kiss her chin, her neck and her breasts? Kiss her eyes, behind her ears or her wrists. Be bold and try something different. You'd be surprised at the results that a little creativity can produced.
If you've never been complimented on your kissing techniques before, now you'll know the basics of being a professional kisser. A quick way to tell if she enjoyed the experience: when you kiss her and then pull back, her eyes stay closed for just a moment longer. This usually means that she thoroughly enjoyed your kiss and there's a good chance that you could take it a step further. Just remember that everything starts with a kiss.
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